My Blog

Blog

  • The dating skills taught by scumbags

    The dating skills taught by scumbags

    Restaurant

    1. Clean clothes and wash your hair

    2. Before the date, ask the other person’s taste, hobbies and taboos, and make an appointment in advance for the restaurant.

    3. Get in and out or enter the elevator to help her keep the door

    4. The hotel decoration style for the first date should be similar to the impression you are going to leave on the other person. Elegant or artistic, upscale or cool

    5. She stood up and welcomed her when she entered the door and gently helped her to get her coat or bag.

    6. Help to move the chair and signal her to sit down

    7. When chatting, you can gaze at the other person to create an ambiguous atmosphere. You can praise the other person for one or two sentences and details❕

    “Your outfit today is very suitable for you, temperament” “I feel that you can match it well”, “I have exquisite makeup today” and so on

    8. Take the initiative to ask the other party to order food and hand over tissues according to the opportunity.

    9. Prepare water for the other party in advance in the car and send the other party home after the date. You can get off the car and open the door for the other party and protect your head with your hands. (General)

    10. After they returned home, they expressed to her, “Today is a wonderful day, thank you for your company.”

    Going out

    1. When crossing the road, you should consciously walk on her left. You can protect it with your hands when there is a car or someone is crowded, but don’t deliberately make physical contact.

    2. When shopping, you will ask the other person if he is tired and whether he wants to find a place to rest.

    3. Take the initiative to help carry things.

    Chat

    ❌Topics such as history, politics, football games, and games need to be clear that the other party is interested in, otherwise don’t blindly use these as topics.

    ❌Don’t check the household registration

    ❌Don’t you be there, what are you doing, did you eat it?

    ❌Don’t continue talking about topics with disagreements

    ❌The other party responds to a topic that is not interested in it.

    Correct way to open ⬇️

    1. Find common ground between both parties

    Both of them like fitness, so they can talk about the topic of “fitness”

    2. Or just talk about things that the other person is interested in

    : She likes to eat and talks about food-related topics

    3. When the other person talks about his or her own experience or his or her views on something, he or she should respond positively and empathize.

    A few universal sentences⬇️

    “I can understand”

    “Yes, you’re right”

    “I feel so too”

    4. If the other person is a beauty, it means that she is no longer interested in the same external praise. At this time, you should praise her inner self, her work ability, and her wisdom. If you have to exaggerate externally, refer to the details mentioned above!

    5. When the other party complains about her experience, you must empathize with her. Never reason with her. You should stand on the united front with her.

    6. Don’t be a stubborn person. When the other party has any signs of arguing with you, you should take the initiative to unload the gun and surrender, otherwise it is very likely that all the good image you have accumulated in the past will be wasted.

  • How to deal with conflicts and problems in a relationship?

    How to deal with conflicts and problems in a relationship?

    First, if the other party has not blocked or deleted you, please stop pestering immediately
    What is pestering?
    For example, sending messages non-stop, calling constantly, writing short essays at every turn, chasing and blocking, mobilizing all relatives and friends to help persuade, begging for apologies and reconciliation, etc.
    Blind pestering will not only make your remaining dignity and goodwill disappear, but also make the relationship between the two of you more tense, and it is easy to be blocked and deleted by the other party.
    More importantly, all your energy is used to entangle the other party, and you have no patience to think about the current situation, the reason why the other party left, and the correct way to save the relationship.
    Why can’t pestering make the other party come back?
    Because the essence of pestering is actually that you are begging the other party to come back by playing the emotional card.
    You hope that exposing your deep affection and misery to the other party will make him come back because of softness and sympathy, but at this moment, is the emotional card really useful?
    For a true breakup, the decision to break up is definitely not made by the other party on impulse, but after a period of observation and entanglement, after repeated weighing, he thinks that you are not the one he wants to be with for a long time, so he has to break up.
    This means that the other party’s rationality prevails and the emotional component is greatly reduced.
    When the other party is very rational, he thinks about the pros and cons, good and bad of a relationship.
    And you are still in the emotional stage. Sensitivity is low-dimensional, and rationality is high-dimensional. You can’t satisfy what the other party wants, but you just ask for what you want from the other party. How is this possible?
    Maybe the reason for the breakup is your trouble, but there is no right or wrong in feelings. There is no need to blame yourself or the other party too much. Self-pity, blaming others, overeating, and losing your appetite are absolutely unacceptable.
    This will only increase the psychological burden of both of you. Even if you win back the other party for a while, you will only get sympathy, not love.
    Fake reconciliation is due to the other party’s momentary softness and impulse. True reconciliation must go through self-reflection and review of the relationship, truly solving the problems between the two of you, and starting a new relationship, rather than repeating the same mistakes.
    People all have the psychology of “loss aversion
    
    “. You were chasing him before, and your presence was very high. He didn’t have the opportunity to experience the feeling of really losing you. If you suddenly disappear, this unexpected loss will suddenly arouse his “loss aversion”.
    He will be curious about you and can’t help but secretly see what you are doing in many ways.
    Because you are so inseparable from him, whether he looks for you on social networks, thinks about you in his mind, or asks someone about you, he is investing time, energy and feelings in you, and only then will the initiative return to you.
    What should I do if there is still contact?
    If you still have WeChat, phone, QQ and other communication methods, a good strategy to save the relationship is to
    position your relationship as friends,
    treat yourself as an ordinary friend of the other party, so that your actions will no longer bring pressure to the other party, and keep this relationship window, so that we can continue to display it later.
    Otherwise, you can’t get in touch, and no matter how many skills you have, there is nowhere to display them.
    There are several key points you need to know when being friends:
    1. You can be more humorous when speaking;
    ———
    2. The sense of need should be lower, because you are just ordinary friends;
    ———
    3. It’s good if the chat feels like a friendship;
    ———
    4. Don’t care too much about his life;
    ———
    5. Let him notice the changes in your life and status.
    Don’t think that you will be friends for life if you become friends. Any relationship develops step by step. When you developed from strangers to lovers, didn’t you also go through the stage of friends?
    Being friends is just a temporary strategy of retreating to advance. We need to lurk around each other first, find the right opportunity and time to reconnect, slowly wash away the negative impression left by ourselves, and create a new good impression.
    If you want to get your ex back efficiently, you must not rely on brute force, but on the correct cognition of emotions and scientific direction and method.
    Only when the direction is right can your efforts bring you positive feedback, otherwise it is easy to go in the opposite direction.
    If you want to reconcile but are not sure what the right method is for you, you might as well click the link below to add my WeChat account and chat with me. I believe it will bring you different inspiration and insights.

  • What’s the most powerful trick you’ve ever seen to seduce a girl?

    What’s the most powerful trick you’ve ever seen to seduce a girl?

    I have been determined to pick up girls since the summer vacation of my sophomore year. Now I am in my senior year. In the past year and a half, I have chatted with more than 60 girls and had sex with them, including more than 20 girls from medical schools, technical secondary schools, nurses, female teachers, female civil servants, girls from milk tea shops, girls from buffet restaurants (I could eat all the free meals later), unemployed vagrants… I have recruited thousands of girls. To put it simply, 1️⃣ Only talk to girls who are interested in you 2️⃣ Go out shopping with girls less often, and go to parks and climb mountains more often because you can spend less money 3️⃣ Build a personal image. This is a specific analysis of the specific problem 4️⃣ Expand the channels to meet girls, this is very important 5️⃣ Improve your eloquence and knowledge. For example, if you can easily read supernatural stories from all over the world and online public opinion and know these, you can talk about them endlessly in relationships between the sexes.

  • You never know how hard a guy will try to get you into bed

    I read a book the other day, and it said that “men are male animals with some hunting instincts.” From the first time he met you, he was already planning how to get to know you.

    More and more female friends have consulted me: How to tell whether the man is sincere to her when they first date.

    When I hear them talk about the behavior of men, or some practices, I always feel helpless: a man, in order to succeed in hunting, is really fighting hard.

    1

    Ms. A and a man who has been in frequent contact recently met on a dating app. The two have dated twice. Ms. A really likes him, but she is not sure whether the man is serious about her. I asked about the details of each date.

    On the first date, at the dinner table, the man always brought up some topics about sex intentionally or unintentionally. Once, for the convenience of conversation, the man moved from the seat facing Ms. A to the seat next to her, and the two seemed particularly intimate.

    On the way to send the lady home, he touched Ms. A’s hair and pulled Ms. A’s hand.

    From beginning to end, Ms. A did not show any resistance.

    On the second date, the man took a step forward and kissed Ms. A.

    Now, the man asked her out for the third time, saying that he would take her to meet his friends, have dinner, and then go to sing.

    Ms. A was a little confused and asked me whether she should go.

    If you are ready for that, go; if not, don’t go. But if you don’t go, he might be very unhappy.

    Because from the beginning, you cooperated with his routine, didn’t refuse, didn’t get angry, and finally he wanted to close the net on the third date, but you refused, and the efforts of the previous two times were in vain. He might think you are teasing him.

    2

    Ms. B and a man met at a friend’s social gathering. Speaking of this man, Ms. B sighed at the strangeness of this man. What’s strange about him?

    As soon as they met, he was passionate. He picked up food for you and was afraid that you would catch a cold. He was really considerate. Looking at his eyes, he was also full of tenderness towards you. Ms. B had an illusion that he seemed to really like her.

    Why is it an illusion? Because when the two of them didn’t meet, the man was very cold to her. Every day he would only say: What are you doing, have you eaten, what did you eat. Just like dealing with a task, after these few sentences, the man would be silent.

    Every time Ms. B chatted with him and excitedly told him about the interesting things that had just happened, he would always reply after a long time: Haha.

    Forget it, don’t waste your energy on him. When he is cold to you on the phone, he may be particularly enthusiastic about the girl he is meeting.

    Three

    Ms. C met a boy through a friend’s introduction. The boy is quite tall. Although his face is not handsome, he gives people a good feeling.

    The boy often contacts her on WeChat and calls her. Saying all kinds of gentle words and showing all kinds of meticulous care.

    However, every time they meet on a date, the boy always seems to have something on his mind and is always absent-minded. Ms. C often talks to him and finds that he is not listening seriously at all.

    When the two of you walked side by side, Ms. C found that he frowned slightly, his eyes flickered and he didn’t know what he was thinking about.

    Ms. C was very angry, but I laughed instead.

    This boy, maybe he was just simply thinking about how to take the relationship with you to the next level, when can we hold hands, under what circumstances is it appropriate to kiss you, and in what occasions can he invite you to his house, or sit in your house.

    It’s just that he hasn’t experienced so many things between men and women, and he can’t be as easy and skillful as an old man when dating.

    His head is thinking about these things, and he can’t do two things at the same time. Naturally, he can’t keep up with your listening and cooperation, so he seems very worried and absent-minded.

    Believe me, every time before meeting you, he has imagined and planned countless times in his mind to be intimate with you until the last step.

    Women have sex because of love, and men love because of sex. Women often consider whether to accept this man before sex, while men often consider whether to accept this woman after sex.

    Men are born with curiosity and seek novelty. Women are prey to men.

    It is the nature of hunters to catch prey, and they spend all their efforts to do so.

    There are too many routines in what I have experienced, seen, and heard. “I would rather believe that there are ghosts in the world than believe what men say” is not said in vain. Girls, be careful not to become his prey.

  • In an age-gap relationship, who is usually more proactive?

    The five pairs of sister-brother relationships around me are all like this. Before marriage, the younger brother is more proactive, and proactive in all aspects. He is simply a perfect boyfriend, while the sisters are cautious or politely reject. And the love of those of us who are in ordinary relationships is like this: men and women go back and forth, no one loves who more, they are all the same, I love him, he loves me, I get angry, he gets annoyed, I am willful, he gets angry. At that time, I envied those sisters who were in sister-brother relationships, they were simply spoiled like princesses. Looking back at our own relationships, the little wolf dog in our imagination does not exist, it does not exist! It is even more impossible to have a drama of buying buns for you five kilometers away in the middle of the night! Later, after marriage, my husband is almost better than Qin Hao. He works like a scalper and talks to me every day, but many times it is like educating a daughter. WTF? ? ? I am also considered a strong woman outside, okay? ! ! Romance, Koko, after years of education, I only have some basic skills. It is not as exaggerated as Chen Yangyu, but it also has that flavor. As for sisters who are in a relationship with a younger man, they enter the hard mode after marriage. Their husbands often evade, are irresponsible, or are childish and rebellious. They feel that the woman is not cute anymore and is becoming more and more like an old lady. Especially when it comes to mother-in-law and daughter-in-law issues, the man is more likely to be a mama’s boy. One of my sisters told me a strange story: her mother-in-law came to her house to play for half a month. Every night, she washed her feet and stepped on everything with wet slippers. For such a small matter, the sister asked her husband to talk to her mother-in-law. Her husband said he would find a chance. As a result, he looked for a week and still couldn’t find a chance. The sister got angry and complained that the sister was “too strong and the old lady should be persuaded slowly.” He also didn’t think that his mother stepping on water was a big deal. Why make such a big fuss? When my family encounters such a thing, I usually tell my mother-in-law directly, “Mom, shake off the water.” Or I ask my husband to tell him, and he will go and tell his mother directly, “Mom, you wipe the shoes. It’s hard for me to clean (my husband also cleans often), and he doesn’t have to wait for a minute.” So after marriage, I feel like I have someone to rely on, and my sisters feel like they have an extra son, and they don’t even need to have a second child. Of course, other sister-brother relationships don’t need to refute me, I’m just talking about the situation around me.

  • Teach you how to tease your girlfriend

    Teach you how to tease your girlfriend

    1. When two people are kissing at home, don’t kiss them on the mouth right away. Start from the forehead, the bridge of the nose, the earlobes (some girls have very sensitive ears), and then slide all the way to the neck.

    2. When you go out for milk tea, you say you want to try the taste of her cup. Then kiss her, drink the milk tea in her mouth, and say to her after you’re done, “It feels much sweeter than my cup.”

    3. When you two go home at night, hold her against the wall in a darker place, then whisper some sweet words in her ear, and walk home holding her hand.

    4. When you go out to eat together, her long hair hangs down and affects her eating. You take out the small rubber band she prepared for you, gently tie it up for her, and then pinch her face. At that moment, she looks at you differently.

    5. Grab her hand, kiss her fingers and the back of her hand, it feels a little more affectionate than kissing her mouth.

    6. Hug her waist from behind when she is brushing her teeth in front of the mirror. Put your chin on her head/shoulder, look at the mirror and say, it’s so beautiful~

    7. Use your fingertips to gently stroke her waist and back, and you will feel a tingling sensation like an electric shock (girls are generally sensitive in many parts of their body)

    8. Kiss her ears and blow into them, and not only her legs will become weak, but her whole body will become weak

    9. When kissing, kiss from the forehead, eyes, nose tip, ears, cheeks, mouth corners, chin, neck, shoulder sockets, collarbone, and make your girlfriend’s legs weak ~ it’s not that difficult. I guarantee that she will become weak after you kiss her.

    10. In the morning, when she is half asleep, give her a sticky kiss. She will hum ~ what are you doing ~ even though she can’t even open her eyes.

    11. Put her hands on your belly and trampoline, and the touch is first-class. For those students who don’t have a belly but only abdominal muscles, I feel sorry for your girlfriends, and you can only play rock climbing.

  • How can I forget an ex-boyfriend I dated for a long time?

    How can I forget an ex-boyfriend I dated for a long time?

    If you can’t forget something, just let it go when you think of it. But you have to know that this is just a dream we have experienced. You will often think of things in the dream, but will you take the things in the dream seriously? Will you stop living a good life because of things in the dream? It’s all because you are too obsessed and too persistent, imagining these empty things as expectations in reality. This is unnecessary, because even if this person appears again, he is not the same person as before, and you are not the same you as before. So things in the world are impermanent, and everyone is changing every second. You must learn to accept impermanence.

  • A close contact with the subject

    A close contact with the subject

    I went to get a room with my boyfriend, but we didn’t go that far. We just kept kissing and then I felt something against my leg, and it felt a little hot. Having taken physiology classes, I instantly understood what it was. Then I asked my boyfriend if he had a reaction, and he said a little, but he would control himself. Then I didn’t want to make him feel worse, so I didn’t continue kissing him, but he continued. I responded to him later (and he kept humming and moaning, which I found a bit weird, because this wasn’t a girl’s reaction). Then he seemed to be in great pain, and told me that his baby couldn’t hold on any longer. But this guy was just asking for trouble and continued to kiss me. Then he suddenly stopped moving, turned sideways, and didn’t do anything else to me (because we had agreed beforehand not to do that). Then I was a bit annoying, so I liked to tease him, kissed his neck, and sucked on his little strawberry. Then he felt very hot, really super hot. Anyway, we basically just kissed that night, and it felt like he was reacting the whole time, so he must be very uncomfortable. Finally, he was leaning on me with his arms shaking. He said: Baby, I’m going crazy, I’m really going crazy. He just let me go to sleep. Later, in the early morning, I was cold, so I pulled the quilt. I said I was cold, and he said he was very hot, super hot. Then when I covered myself with a blanket, he had to cover himself too. His back was covered and it felt very hot. I suspected that he had a fever because I was really, really cold. Finally, I want to ask: How uncomfortable would it be for a boy if he didn’t resolve the issue after having a reaction? And when we kiss, does he moan because he is enjoying it and feeling comfortable? And what is the principle behind the body shaking?

  • Small details that add points to boys when dating

    Small details that add points to boys when dating

    1. If she wants to go home, you should send her home. If she doesn’t need it, don’t force her to call a taxi or stop a car. When she gets in the car, remember to use your palm to support the door, don’t let the girl’s head hit it

    2. Dress appropriately, your appearance should be dignified and generous, your clothes should look comfortable, and your overall image should be natural and energetic. It would be best if you can spray some light perfume

    3. When buying her water or drinks, remember to loosen the cap, not completely, because women have less strength, so she will feel that you are very careful and considerate

    4. Look into her eyes when she speaks, open a topic when she is silent, and smile when she smiles, and don’t forget to praise her smile

    5. Take the initiative to pay the bill. When she pays the bill, you can say sorry, you don’t like to let girls pay, you go buy a bottle of water. You should let both parties participate, you pay the most, and the girl pays a little

    6. When opening the door, remember to open it yourself, and wait for the girl to come out before slowly closing the door

    7. Don’t be late, that is the most basic courtesy. You can arrive 10 minutes early

    8. Find out in advance whether the place where you are dating is clean, whether you need to queue, whether you need to walk a long way to change places, and whether it is convenient to take a taxi?

    9. When eating, help the other party pull the stool first, then sit down opposite, and ask the other party what he likes to eat. If he says he likes anything, then you must ask what type of food he likes, whether he can eat spicy food, whether he can drink frozen drinks, etc.

    10. The attitude towards the waiter is particularly important. You should often say thank you, which is more heartwarming than thank you. Girls will see it in their eyes. This is the best time to show your character

    11. The walking pace will be slightly slower (boys have long legs, and girls usually wear high heels, so it is easy to walk faster than girls unconsciously. If they are not familiar with each other, girls should secretly follow quickly, but boys usually don’t notice it easily

    12. Keep an umbrella in the trunk of the car (this is really a detail.)

    13. Let the girls eat first when eating, and leave the last bite of food for the girls (especially when they are all very hungry)

    14. Pay attention to your words and deeds, do not say dirty words, spit, shake your legs and cover your face, etc. It is best to put a pack of napkins in your pocket

    15. When walking with many people, you should clear the way in front. On the side of the road: you should stand on the side with cars. When going up the stairs, hold her arm , if she has a bag, take the initiative to help her carry it, don’t ask, just do it directly

    16. Say important things three times, reply to messages immediately, reply to messages privately, reply to messages immediately (even if you reply, I’m busy)

    17. Wherever you go is a living map

    18. Take the initiative to help her carry her bag. You will definitely walk a lot on the street when you are dating, and girls will be tired after carrying a backpack for a long time

    19. Tissues: Bring a pack is a sure thing, it’s considerate and adds points

    20. If you have money, you will get points everywhere, don’t think too much, it’s others who take the initiative to pay for you

  • The dating skills that the rich second generation taught me

    The dating skills that the rich second generation taught me

    1. For meals, try to choose hot pot:

    The more complicated the dipping sauce is, the higher the requirements of men will be in the future

    The requirements for quality of life will not be low;

    People who cook and eat slowly have good personalities and tempers;

    People who cook and eat quickly pursue freshness

    Or she is absent-minded and wants to finish early;

    People who order more meat are strong!

    In addition, eating hot pot is not a rush, just cook and eat

    It is very warm and the atmosphere is good when it is steaming hot

    Western food is not interesting at all, expensive and unpalatable

    Maybe you think Western restaurants are romantic

    In fact, men will instinctively become gentlemen when they enter a Western restaurant

    The problem is that being a gentleman is not conducive to promoting relationships, you have to pay attention to your behavior everywhere

    It is difficult for everyone to be open

    2. Watching a movie is an invalid date and a waste of time

    I didn’t get into the movie, and there was no communication between the two of us for two hours

    3. If you have a car, you can take a short self-driving trip

    I have discovered that women are very happy when they go out

    Dating is to make her happy, as long as she is happy once, she will want to do it again

    It is best to go to a place with mountains and water, you can hold her hand when climbing a mountain, and you can hold her hand when getting on a boat

    But it should be noted that you need to know a little about photography and take pictures

    You can’t take pictures of her beauty when you go to a place with good scenery

    It will also affect her mood

    4. When crossing the road, it is the best time to hold hands

    If you don’t hold hands now, when will you?

    If you don’t dare to hold her hand, take out your phone and pretend to make a call, then pass your other hand to her

    Anyone you can date will not dislike you, remember!

    Be confident in yourself

    5. Just talk about her, everyone likes to be the protagonist

    Talk about other hot news, she won’t make too many comments in front of you

    It’s easy to get bored

    6. Take her to an amusement park, water park or other places

    She will let go of everything

    If she still can’t let go, that’s even better, it means she cares more about the image in your mind

    7. Be sure to praise more, specific to the details

    For example: “This skirt is so beautiful, you can see that you are very knowledgeable about clothes”

    “This necklace suits you very well, someone else can’t wear it with your temperament”

    A love Cold knowledge: Women will instinctively like those who can find their beauty

    8. Don’t be too polite or too gentlemanly

    Being too polite will alienate the relationship

    9. Never spend money recklessly

    This is not being rich, it’s being stupid

    10. The best place for a date is: IKEA

    Because it helps to bring you into the role of her future “husband”

    Because women all want to have their own home

    And this kind of place can just create a feeling:

    You two buy home furnishings and decorate your home together

    A date that can create this feeling is the most successful date